Dear Brothers
I hope you know that God also instructed us to submit to our wives.
You don’t know? Hahahaha. Weren’t you informed? Oya, let me inform you now.
Submission is an act a man and woman must carry out in marriage to have a successful union. Submission for a man and submission for a woman are not the same. They are practiced in two different ways.
If only men knew what it takes to submit to their wives is harder, they would not even be demanding submission from women because most of them aren’t practicing their own submission.
Some men know what I am about to say now, just that they have chosen to pretend like they don’t know. Better stop it. But if you honestly don’t know, let me show you.
In case you are in doubt, you fit go check an out for yourself later. Check Ephesians 5: 21, then jump to 25. Dont read 22 to 24. If you can read it with New Living Translation, you will get the gist faster
God said, “For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her”. He went on to say that you should love her like your own body. “He who loves his wife loves himself.” So technically, if you no love your wife, you no love yours.
No be me talk am oh, na so e dey for Bible.
You know what it means to die for someone? It means you are putting them before yourself. It means before you make any decisions, you think about how it will affect them and even ask their opinion, and if it will hurt them, you don’t do it.
So if you think being the leader in the home is having your way, then you don’t know what leadership means or what it means to be the head.
By biblical standards, you are the physical head of the home as a man, but your wife na the neck that controls the head because somehow na she dey decide. 
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Bible said to love her as yourself. It means If you know that thing that will hurt you, then don’t do it to her. If cheating on you will hurt you, then don’t cheat on her. If lying will hurt you, don’t lie to her. If keeping secrets will hurt you, don’t keep any from her.
Again, Jesus washed the feet of his disciples oh. A whole Jesus. Son of God. Ah. It’s called servant leadership. It means you are leading by serving your wife. (Serving each other).
And when you lead this way, her submitting everything, her whole life to you becomes very easy for her because she knows in every decision you want to make, you think about her first and even ask her to know what she thinks. You always get her involved because you care about her as much as you care about yourself.
She would truth you with her life because she knows you will lift her and not try to control her.
I wouldn’t say I like admitting this, but this is true. “If we have more servant leaders as men, it will become very easy for their wives to submit totally to them except that woman is the granddaughter of Jezebel.”
People easily give up things when they are assured they are safe. If you can’t provide a safe place for a woman, what makes you think she would want to give up some part of her and submit to you? Never.
A good and godly woman that fears the lord will submit her whole life to her husband, who is submitted to God and in turn submits his life too to her by loving her the way the bible described above because she knows the husband will not kill her dreams or purpose but will do his all to help her accomplish it.
Husbands, submit to your wife.
This message is for my Christian brothers because this is God’s plan for a happy and healthy marriage. The rest can do whatever they want.