10 Dos and Don’ts When On a Date. First Date, All Dates.

A successful date experience is very important. Some people never get a second date because of what they did wrong during the first. Also, a lot of people miss out on a potential partner becomes of something they didn’t do well or overdid during a date or something they were supposed to do but didn’t do. 

It’s can be very difficult to tell if you are doing something right or wrong during a date if you are not well informed. The person you are going out on a date with could be a friend or someone you just met physically, online or set up by friends therefore you know nearly nothing about them. 

Well, you don’t have to worry much because below you will be learning my top 5 five dos and 5 don’t when out on a date. These rules are general rules and they apply to any and everybody.

DON’TS. 

1. Don’t make the date just about you. 

A lot of people don’t know how to hold a balanced conversation and going on a date is one place you need to ensure you are having a balanced conversation. A date is not a place you come just to talk about yourself without giving the other person a chance to express themselves. 

The point of going on that date is so both of you can get to know yourselves betters and for friends on a date so that both of you can share updates and catch up with what is happening in your life’s, therefore, the conversation needs to be balanced and not one-sided. 

Talk and give the other opportunity to talk too. 

2. Don’t turn the date into a counseling or interview session. 

Even if you try so hard to get a balanced conversation, or get them talking too about themselves you must avoid turning the date into a counseling session or a job interview session. 

You can not enjoy a date together if all you do is ask a question after a question or you go there trying to solve their problem.  You must learn to allow a conversation to flow naturally. You can ask questions and then try to birth a free discussion from that question where both of you can contribute your opinions before moving to the next topic. 

The secret to success in this area is that both of you must have an open mind and ready to share information. 

3. Don’t go and start sharing all your family problems. 

In as much as you are encouraged to share things about yourself which is why you are there in the first place, you must also avoid oversharing. You must avoid turning the date into a complaint session. You can’t be sharing how you need this at home or how your family has not been able to do this or that. 

As much as you can, keep the conversation within areas you don’t have to start looking like you are out to seek financial or emotional support. If you want to share these kinds of information it should only be shared with a close friend who you just decided to hang out with to catch up and only discuss it if it’s very necessary. 

4. Don’t operate your mobile phone when on a date. 

I see the habit of pressing phones as offensive when you are out on a date with someone. Who are you talking to over chat or what are you checking online that can’t be done after or before your date?

It’s a sign of disrespect if you are more interested in your phone more than the person physically with you at that moment. 

It’s best you cut the hangout short if you are not enjoying it than to be operating your device when someone needs your attention. Put them away for that one or 2 hours you are out with each other. 

5. Don’t act pushy or desperate. 

This is one area most people flaw in. Sometimes because you like this person and you want them, you start acting desperate or too pushy. 

You must avoid coming up strong at anybody whether male or female. Just relax, be yourself and just enjoy that moment. If they like you they will ask for another date, if you like them you can just nicely ask if you can hang out sometime soon again. 

Avoid acting like you can’t get over them or like you want to know everything about them just on a first date. You must learn to allow some things to take their natural course and play out well. 

If you want to know how to make a good first date impression click here. 

DO’S

1. Do wear a smile.

You can not afford not to wear a warm smile when out on a date. Smiling makes you and your date relax to talk about things freely.

People who frown always or who find it hard to smile are not usually fun to be with because they make people think they are not interested in them or what they are saying. A warm smile can lighten up your date and you will have the best of experience.

2. Do wear a comfortable outfit. 

When talking about dressing fine or smart it is not just about wearing good clothes or dressing to kill. Hahaha.

It’s about looking comfortable. You don’t want to be out with that friend and half of the night or day you are adjusting one part of your cloth to another. This will make you very uncomfortable and you might end up not having a good day because of it. 

So if you have failed in this area before, on your next date, dress smart, wear what fits and that will help you feel more comfortable.

3. Do mind your table manners. 

Just because you are asked to be yourself doesn’t mean you should forget your table manners. There are sets of persons who just act in a certain way that is abnormal because they don’t want to pretend. 

Yes, we agree that nobody should pretend which should also be one of the things you shouldn’t do on a date but at the same time, some things don’t fall in the same category of pretense. Things like developing a good table manner when you are outside even if you can not do it at home. 

4. Do come with enough cash.

I say this to you to avoid stories that touch the heart. Go with enough cash whether male or female. Don’t say they are the ones inviting you out so they should take care of the bills. 

Some people were trained differently, and from different cultures too. Some people believe that everyone should pay for what they eat, others believe that the person who requested the date should pay and some believe the guy should always pay. 

So to avoid stories, just go with enough cash to at least cover for what you take. 

5. Do listen during conversations. 

If you want to enjoy your date and have subsequent dates then you have to be a good listener. 

The ability to listen and understand is one key to a great friendship. You don’t want a situation where after telling you something or telling them something and they can’t understand because they weren’t even paying attention. 

So pay attention so you can enjoy a great conversation and build a solid friendship from there. 

I believe this was very helpful. 

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Check out how to make a good first date impression here. 

Cheers

Profit Eneh

Personal development and Relationship Coach

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